We won’t forgive a sibling for not coming to our party, when really we are secretly furious they insinuated our marriage wouldn’t last.
We can convince ourselves we are mad at someone for one thing, when really we are upset about something entirely different. 1) You aren’t being honest with yourself about the real cause of your hurt. See if one of the reasons below is holding you back from forgiving and forgetting for once and for all. But other times we can’t forgive because we simply have yet to recognise the pattern or the self-deception we are stuck in that is stopping us from letting go.